Happy Married Life
The best way to enjoy life is to play the role of intellectual partner. Men and women must live as intellectual partners.
Men and women were both made as a special creation and created of the same substance. Life is like a cart with two wheels. The cart cannot move without the joint action of both the wheels. No wheel is superior or inferior, both are equal and both have equal roles to play.
It is said that man is a social animal. It means that a man or a woman cannot play his or her role alone. To fulfil their purpose in life, they must join each other. Every successful venture, be it launched by a man or a woman, has to be a joint venture. Without joint effort, no one can achieve any great goal.
A joint venture does not mean that both the genders must do one and the same job. This kind of absolute equality is against nature, and is thus impracticable. In life, there is no such thing as can be described as job equality. True equality is equality in status or respect. Here, joint effort means that both the genders, like the two wheels of the cart, must unite in their life’s mission.
The role of a man or a woman in life is not simply to earn money, to accumulate material things, enjoy life, and have what is called entertainment. The purpose of life is greater than these things. Man is not simply a physical entity, but an intellectual being. A man or a woman must enjoy life, not only on a material level, but on an intellectual level. The best way to enjoy life is to play the role of intellectual partner. Men and women must live as intellectual partners.
The universe of facts has far more items than are found in a shopping mall. The universe of facts has billions and trillions of things which are spiritual and intellectual in nature. And, man and woman must embark their journey on this path, in order to discover higher facts and to enjoy life on a higher plane, thus unfolding the hidden treasures of life.
Jesus Christ rightly said that man does not live by bread alone. Here ‘bread’ is a symbolic term, meaning material goods. Experience shows that those who focus entirely on obtaining material things die in a state of dissatisfaction. No amount of material goods can give you real satisfaction or real peace of mind. Man cannot live on material things alone.
The real goal for a man or a woman is to achieve peace of mind—the most valuable thing in our lives. Peace of mind is spiritual in nature, and it is only spiritual attainment that can give you peace of mind. The mind can become peaceful only by feeding more and more spiritual things into it. And, man and woman are two natural partners in this regard. They are born to make a joint effort to achieve this goal.
Spiritual attainment is not a mysterious word. It is one and the same thing as intellectual attainment. Spiritual attainment, or intellectual attainment, can be had through intellectual exercise, and such an exercise is a joint effort. Everyone needs a partner to proceed with such a journey. And, nature has provided us with this blessing in its pairing of man and woman.
Intellectual partnership is very important and the highest goal for a man or a woman. But there is a condition for this to be successful, and that condition is a ten-lettered miraculous word, that is, adjustment.
Adjustment is not submission or surrender. It is rather the greatest joy. And it is more than that. It is the acceptance of reality. When you adjust with the other partner, you prove that you are living at a higher level of intellect. Adjustment results from high thinking and is a highly enjoyable experience.
The British hunter Jim Corbett (1875 – 1955) was a great expert on tigers. He states in his book, Man-Eaters of Kumaon, “The tiger is a large-hearted gentleman with boundless courage.” Contrary to the popular notion, the tiger always adjusts, it never invites fighting. So adjustment is characteristic of the tiger. Live like a tiger and adopt the high culture of adjustment. The tiger is the king of the jungle, and by adopting this culture, you can also live like a king.
