SPOILED CHILDREN

Excessive pampering is the underlying cause of children being spoiled. When parents spoil their children themselves, how can they blame others for this?

Nowadays, parents commonly complain that their children are spoiled, with television bearing the brunt of the blame. They believe that television is the catalyst behind their children’s spoiled behaviour. When a person approached me, seeking my opinion on the issue, I responded, “If television is truly at the root of the issue, why do parents allow televisions in their homes? Children do not purchase televisions themselves; the parents bring them into the household to please their children. Thus, the real responsibility lies with the parents, not the children.”

The truth is that excessive pampering is the underlying cause of children being spoiled. Parents believe that their children’s every wish must be fulfilled. While children are young, their desires are limited to things like food and clothing. At this stage, parents may fail to recognize the error of their views. However, as children grow up, their interests expand to encompass friendships, outings, clubs, and romantic relationships. At this stage, when parents attempt to intervene and impose restrictions, children resist, rejecting their parents’ attempts at control. Undoubtedly, this is a consequence of the negligence of the parents themselves.

During their formative years, parents instilled in their children that all their desires should be satisfied. As they enter adulthood, this mindset intensifies, leading them to pursue activities disapproved of by their parents to fulfil their desires. Yet, one must question who instilled the “My desire is everything” disposition in the children. It was the parents themselves through their indulgence. The truth is that, in this regard, parents are unwittingly exhibiting enmity toward their children, masked as love.