In a word, I will say you should have an appreciating nature, and not a non-appreciating nature. This has many advantages. This cannot happen without being modest. Modesty is at the root of this nature. If there is modesty, there won't be clashes in family life. The wife wants the husband to agree to her, while the husband wants the wife to listen to her. If there is modesty, every marriage will be successful, be it a love or an arranged marriage. Lack of modesty leads to failed marriages, which is true not only in India but all over the world. Both sides have egos, which leads to ego clashes on trivial issues. One side says I want to do shopping, while the other side says no. This creates tensions. One would say I want coffee, the other would say I want tea. This leads to clash. The wife wants her wish to be fulfilled, while the husband wants his to be fulfilled. Lack of modesty leads to failed marriages and bad politics.