TOWARDS MARITAL BLISS
Intellectual Partnership Between Husband And Wife
THE relationship between husband and wife is a delicate matter, because they are not related by blood. Therefore, the only way to make this relationship successful is to use reason, rather than allow emotions to take precedence. In a blood relationship, there is an emotional bonding. But even then, one has to make a conscious effort. The force of nature, existing in blood relationships, does not exist between husband and wife, which is why it is difficult to manage this relationship successfully without rational management. In short, a blood relationship establishes itself by the force of nature, while a non- blood relationship is established through conscious effort and rational management.
The important thing to know is the starting point of the rational management of this relationship.
Being Grateful
The coming together of man and woman in marriage is the most unique event in the universe. All the things created in the universe are created in pairs. But the compatibility that exists between a man and a woman cannot be found in any other created thing. When a man and a woman come together as life partners, it is evident that they have been made for one another through a conscious plan. Once life partners realize this, they will be overwhelmed with gratitude at having found each other. They will consider it a blessing. This happiness in each other will endure; they will feel as if they have found something priceless. This will make them grateful for each other’s companionship.
Being Educated
Education is important for both men and women. Without education both are incomplete. Education is a need which no one can afford to ignore. Ignoring it would mean depriving oneself of the means to attain a higher goal in life. Unable to reach any worthwhile goal, one would then leave this world in a state of frustration. Education refers to not
just vocational education. Vocational education ensures one a job, while a broader education transports one to the world of knowledge and wisdom. The acquisition of knowledge and wisdom takes the educated person to the highest pedestal of humanity.
To know the natural traits of men and women
When a man and woman tie the knot in marriage, it is a coming together of two opposite personalities. A woman tends to be emotional while a man tends to be egoistic. These traits are a part of their nature. These traits have positive as well as negative aspects. If they are put to positive use, it will prove to be a boon to humanity. But if they are put to negative use, it will prove to be a bane for humanity. The positive aspect of egoism in man is that it is one of the driving forces in working steadfastly for a cause. The negative aspect is that it will make him arrogant. The positive aspect of emotionalism is sensitiveness and compassion, but the negative aspect is that it can make a woman stubborn. Therefore, both men and women should know that they should exercise self-control.
Understanding about the differences and de-conditioning
Man and women are two different personalities. They are both conditioned to their different ways of upbringing and lifestyle. They are a product of their environment. As a result, they start regarding their way of thinking as right. When one starts to think in this manner, it is the result of conditioning. This will be a problem. The only solution to this problem is to decondition one another. This is possible only through intellectual discussion with each other. However, the prerequisite for this is the willingness to admit one’s mistakes and be ready to change.
Mutual Trust
When any task is assigned to two people, mutual trust between the two is required for the successful completion of the task. Mutual trust between husband and wife is essential to successfully build a home. No good home is ever built without the existence of mutual trust between husband and wife.
The above-listed guiding points are the foundation of a successful married life.
