Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) was an unconventional person. He often used to say such unconventional things as would anger many conventional people.

He writes of an incident during a lecture he was giving, which is as follows: “A man rose in fury, remarking that I looked like a monkey; to which I replied, ‘Then you will have the pleasure of hearing the voice of your ancestors.’” (Auto- biography, p. 565)

Russell’s response alludes to the theory of evolution. According to this theory, humans have evolved from the species of monkeys. Here I will not discuss the veracity of this theory. I have referred to this incident here because it is a good example of making a reply without being provoked. When someone says something harsh or criticizes you, at that time there are two ways in which you can answer. One way is to become angry and retort in anger. This is a non-serious way of answering.

The second way after listening to harsh words is not to burst out in anger. You should control yourself, no matter how harshly someone speaks to you. Your answer should not be reactionary, but should rather be well thought out and positive.

The first way of replying will only increase provocation, whereas the second way will have a calming effect. It is as good as pouring water on fire.

The second way of answering is the best method of silencing the questioner. In the said event, Bertrand Russell’s answer proved to be quite effective, whereas it would not have been so effective had he answered in a negative manner.

Source: The Secret of Success